End Stuttering » love http://www.end-stuttering.com End Your Stuttering Today Sat, 21 May 2011 02:53:39 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Don’t Let a Surprise Flirt Catch You Off Guard http://www.end-stuttering.com/dont-let-a-surprise-flirt-catch-you-off-guard-2.php http://www.end-stuttering.com/dont-let-a-surprise-flirt-catch-you-off-guard-2.php#comments Sun, 06 Dec 2009 16:03:35 +0000 admin http://www.end-stuttering.com/dont-let-a-surprise-flirt-catch-you-off-guard-2.php Certain that it’s a fluke or maybe she’s high or something, you make nothing of it… exchange a few more pleasantries and turn away. You spot her once again at the checkout, but now she won’t even look at you or maybe shoots you that sort of longing “could have been” look and then is gone. A few minutes later while driving back home think to yourself… “Geez, was that chick flirting with me or what? Maybe I should have got her phone number…”And so it goes… another unlikely SURPRISE chance to hook up with a hot little number shot down the tubes. This used to happen to me constantly! Not frequently, mind you (I wish) — but whenever I did catch a surprise flirt like this the result was always the same… nothing!That’s because my reaction to it was always the same: total lock-up!Part of this failure to engage can be chalked up simple DISBELIEF: by the time you realize… “hey, is this chick flirting with me or what?” the magical moment has already gone sour and the opportunity is kaput. I talk in my books about how your best chances with women will often seem to happen unexpectedly when and where you least imagine them — which is why it is so very important in gaming women to be able to switch gears and spring into action at the first sign of any sudden connection! So this “catch-a-chance” skill is critically important to your overall success with women.Alright then, with this idea now established let me share a few of my thoughts on this ONE particular maddening aspect of gaming women: the surprise flirt.1) Don’t Freeze-Up Wondering why YOU could be Her Guy — The single biggest killer in this situation is HESITATION. Like so much of the sport of gaming women, timing is everything. However, in this situation minutes don’t matter, SECONDS matter. When a chick opens a sudden flirt you literally have a window of opportunity available to you that’s measured in mere seconds. You should almost see a ten second counter open up over her head that immediately begins running down 9….8….7…. to remind you of how little time you have to act in a way that plays perfectly off her opening volley. The big mental block as I mentioned before is usually disbelief. But while you’re wondering if a chick this cool could actually be flirting with a lowlife such as yourself, precious seconds are ticking away and with it goes your chance! If she’s not immediately seeing the reaction she was hoping for from you… SHE READS THIS AS A REJECTION! Once that happens she will pull back (I’ve actually seen them physically snap back) and the flirt is over. Women have no tolerance for rejection and will rarely try to push through it like a guy might.MAJOR RULE: You never know what any other person in the world considers to be their “type”. You’ve seen loads of women arm-in-arm with gross, grubby dudes. So don’t waste any precious time whatsoever wondering how some chick like this could find someone like you attractive enough to flirt with. Just accept her judgment and GO WITH IT! No falling back into your psy-protective shell and then making endless excuses about it all later to yourself. No over-thinking of what’s going on, no suspicion of motives, no paranoia, no DISBELIEF — none of that junk must be allowed to intrude into your mind at this critical moment when you’re “on the clock” — because that stuff will only result in lock-up, and once that happens it’s game-over.2) A Sudden Flirt is Always your Chance to Shine — It doesn’t matter if your silly little joke is lame or if your words are stuttering or smooth (or even what exactly you say to her), the important thing is that you are attempting to react to her GIFT OF A FLIRT in a positive way that reflects those good feelings right back at her! Your willingness to pick up a flirt and give it right back to a chick speaks volumes about yourself instantaneously… and it’s all good stuff! It says that you’re likely active socially (and therefore something of a catch), have good self-esteem, that you’re pleasantly extroverted around people almost as a reflex, and so on.This is the best way to communicate these various types of qualities to women… with your ACTIONS rather than your bragging lips!You’re being given the opportunity to put yourself over with a quiet charm instead of a lot of bragging words — so you should jump on this chance because it doesn’t come along often. A woman initiating a flirt is taking a personal risk to give you a big juicy GO signal in the only way she knows how — admittedly a bit awkward and the entire “surprise” thing is somewhat unfair — but unfairness ABOUNDS throughout the universe of man-woman affairs of the heart, and so why should this aspect of it be any different?3) Let Her “Win” the Flirt — remember, she started all this and so it’s really HER play. That means if you blow her off and fail to respond to her flirt (even if it’s because of your own disbelief) it won’t matter, she’ll feel rejected and will quickly flee the scene. But… if you pick up her flirt and give it right back in a fun and friendly way, then SHE WINS! By that I mean you’ve verified her charm as a woman… she “won” your male attention! Get it? This sort of thing is thrilling to a woman and puts her in an instant happy/satisfied mood from which you can naturally be expected to seek to want to know more about her. It plays into all her “chick flick” fantasies!So once you’ve spread the good vibes around in this way, you should…4) Follow Up Immediately — Get her name and number and pop it straight into your cellphone, or use a low-tech pen and scrap of paper, whatever you need to make it possible to hook up with her again. Or, offer to meet her somewhere within the next 1-3 days at some common ground, some “happening” place? A nightclub, a corner bar, a local event, a bowling alley… whatever. Whatever fits your particular style and surroundings and is a place that you would normally frequent. Figure out what this actual place would be IN ADVANCE and have it stored away in your noggin always ready to use.Then just invite (don’t “ask” and especially don’t beg!) her to meet you at XYZ Club this Friday night… you know they have great steamed clams or killer Buffalo wings, etc. (know something about the joint!). Make it a safe, public venue that you would usually hang out at… somewhere she would certainly know about if she lives in the area. Slide her an invitation to meet you there for coffee, or maybe to watch you play softball. “You seem very charming (cool, fun-loving)” is all you need to say.Simple words spoken WHERE THEY ARE WELCOME will rock her world!Inviting her out to a public party spot also has the added benefit of making you seem like a social, happening guy — rather than whining for her “magic 7 digits” like some porn-downloading nerd. Tantalizing a woman to JOIN YOUR WORLD as opposed to “saving you” makes a rockin’ statement about your high male status. These impressions are subtle, but they are psychologically powerful.So in review, DON’T JUDGE WHY — LET HER WIN THE FLIRT — HAVE A PLAN FOR FURTHER CONTACT. Write these down on a card and stick them on your bathroom mirror so you can see them every morning. This will drive these ideas deep into your mind so that the next time you get hit with a surprise flirt from some hottie pumping gas next to you, you’ll be able to react within seconds.In the sparkle of her eye!By learning how to mimic key behaviors that women find attractive in so called “alpha males”, Mike Pilinski overcame an incredible case of rejection phobia. His resulting success forms the basis for the methods that he now teaches men. Visit Mike’s website at http://0845.com/jxV to see his highly acclaimed e-books “Without Embarrassment” and “She’s Yours For The Taking: A Man’s Guide to the Seduction and Enchantment of Women”http://0845.com/jxVI thank you for taking the time to read this short report and I sincerely hope you take actionand make your life happier and wealthier for the better.JanuszJanulis© 2003-2009 World Marketing Media, Inc.

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]]> http://www.end-stuttering.com/dont-let-a-surprise-flirt-catch-you-off-guard-2.php/feed 0 Don’t Let a Surprise Flirt Catch You Off Guard http://www.end-stuttering.com/dont-let-a-surprise-flirt-catch-you-off-guard.php http://www.end-stuttering.com/dont-let-a-surprise-flirt-catch-you-off-guard.php#comments Sat, 05 Dec 2009 03:31:11 +0000 admin http://www.end-stuttering.com/dont-let-a-surprise-flirt-catch-you-off-guard.php Certain that it’s a fluke or maybe she’s high or something, you make nothing of it… exchange a few more pleasantries and turn away. You spot her once again at the checkout, but now she won’t even look at you or maybe shoots you that sort of longing “could have been” look and then is gone. A few minutes later while driving back home think to yourself… “Geez, was that chick flirting with me or what? Maybe I should have got her phone number…”And so it goes… another unlikely SURPRISE chance to hook up with a hot little number shot down the tubes. This used to happen to me constantly! Not frequently, mind you (I wish) — but whenever I did catch a surprise flirt like this the result was always the same… nothing!That’s because my reaction to it was always the same: total lock-up!Part of this failure to engage can be chalked up simple DISBELIEF: by the time you realize… “hey, is this chick flirting with me or what?” the magical moment has already gone sour and the opportunity is kaput. I talk in my books about how your best chances with women will often seem to happen unexpectedly when and where you least imagine them — which is why it is so very important in gaming women to be able to switch gears and spring into action at the first sign of any sudden connection! So this “catch-a-chance” skill is critically important to your overall success with women.Alright then, with this idea now established let me share a few of my thoughts on this ONE particular maddening aspect of gaming women: the surprise flirt.1) Don’t Freeze-Up Wondering why YOU could be Her Guy — The single biggest killer in this situation is HESITATION. Like so much of the sport of gaming women, timing is everything. However, in this situation minutes don’t matter, SECONDS matter. When a chick opens a sudden flirt you literally have a window of opportunity available to you that’s measured in mere seconds. You should almost see a ten second counter open up over her head that immediately begins running down 9….8….7…. to remind you of how little time you have to act in a way that plays perfectly off her opening volley. The big mental block as I mentioned before is usually disbelief. But while you’re wondering if a chick this cool could actually be flirting with a lowlife such as yourself, precious seconds are ticking away and with it goes your chance! If she’s not immediately seeing the reaction she was hoping for from you… SHE READS THIS AS A REJECTION! Once that happens she will pull back (I’ve actually seen them physically snap back) and the flirt is over. Women have no tolerance for rejection and will rarely try to push through it like a guy might.MAJOR RULE: You never know what any other person in the world considers to be their “type”. You’ve seen loads of women arm-in-arm with gross, grubby dudes. So don’t waste any precious time whatsoever wondering how some chick like this could find someone like you attractive enough to flirt with. Just accept her judgment and GO WITH IT! No falling back into your psy-protective shell and then making endless excuses about it all later to yourself. No over-thinking of what’s going on, no suspicion of motives, no paranoia, no DISBELIEF — none of that junk must be allowed to intrude into your mind at this critical moment when you’re “on the clock” — because that stuff will only result in lock-up, and once that happens it’s game-over.2) A Sudden Flirt is Always your Chance to Shine — It doesn’t matter if your silly little joke is lame or if your words are stuttering or smooth (or even what exactly you say to her), the important thing is that you are attempting to react to her GIFT OF A FLIRT in a positive way that reflects those good feelings right back at her! Your willingness to pick up a flirt and give it right back to a chick speaks volumes about yourself instantaneously… and it’s all good stuff! It says that you’re likely active socially (and therefore something of a catch), have good self-esteem, that you’re pleasantly extroverted around people almost as a reflex, and so on.This is the best way to communicate these various types of qualities to women… with your ACTIONS rather than your bragging lips!You’re being given the opportunity to put yourself over with a quiet charm instead of a lot of bragging words — so you should jump on this chance because it doesn’t come along often. A woman initiating a flirt is taking a personal risk to give you a big juicy GO signal in the only way she knows how — admittedly a bit awkward and the entire “surprise” thing is somewhat unfair — but unfairness ABOUNDS throughout the universe of man-woman affairs of the heart, and so why should this aspect of it be any different?3) Let Her “Win” the Flirt — remember, she started all this and so it’s really HER play. That means if you blow her off and fail to respond to her flirt (even if it’s because of your own disbelief) it won’t matter, she’ll feel rejected and will quickly flee the scene. But… if you pick up her flirt and give it right back in a fun and friendly way, then SHE WINS! By that I mean you’ve verified her charm as a woman… she “won” your male attention! Get it? This sort of thing is thrilling to a woman and puts her in an instant happy/satisfied mood from which you can naturally be expected to seek to want to know more about her. It plays into all her “chick flick” fantasies!So once you’ve spread the good vibes around in this way, you should…4) Follow Up Immediately — Get her name and number and pop it straight into your cellphone, or use a low-tech pen and scrap of paper, whatever you need to make it possible to hook up with her again. Or, offer to meet her somewhere within the next 1-3 days at some common ground, some “happening” place? A nightclub, a corner bar, a local event, a bowling alley… whatever. Whatever fits your particular style and surroundings and is a place that you would normally frequent. Figure out what this actual place would be IN ADVANCE and have it stored away in your noggin always ready to use.Then just invite (don’t “ask” and especially don’t beg!) her to meet you at XYZ Club this Friday night… you know they have great steamed clams or killer Buffalo wings, etc. (know something about the joint!). Make it a safe, public venue that you would usually hang out at… somewhere she would certainly know about if she lives in the area. Slide her an invitation to meet you there for coffee, or maybe to watch you play softball. “You seem very charming (cool, fun-loving)” is all you need to say.Simple words spoken WHERE THEY ARE WELCOME will rock her world!Inviting her out to a public party spot also has the added benefit of making you seem like a social, happening guy — rather than whining for her “magic 7 digits” like some porn-downloading nerd. Tantalizing a woman to JOIN YOUR WORLD as opposed to “saving you” makes a rockin’ statement about your high male status. These impressions are subtle, but they are psychologically powerful.So in review, DON’T JUDGE WHY — LET HER WIN THE FLIRT — HAVE A PLAN FOR FURTHER CONTACT. Write these down on a card and stick them on your bathroom mirror so you can see them every morning. This will drive these ideas deep into your mind so that the next time you get hit with a surprise flirt from some hottie pumping gas next to you, you’ll be able to react within seconds.In the sparkle of her eye!By learning how to mimic key behaviors that women find attractive in so called “alpha males”, Mike Pilinski overcame an incredible case of rejection phobia. His resulting success forms the basis for the methods that he now teaches men. Visit Mike’s website at http://0845.com/jxV to see his highly acclaimed e-books “Without Embarrassment” and “She’s Yours For The Taking: A Man’s Guide to the Seduction and Enchantment of Women”http://0845.com/jxVI thank you for taking the time to read this short report and I sincerely hope you take actionand make your life happier and wealthier for the better.JanuszJanulis© 2003-2009 World Marketing Media, Inc.

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© 2003-2009 World Marketing Media, Inc.
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Jer 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  NIV

God has a plan for your life.   And that plan is to prosper, not harm; to give hope and a future.  What an awesome plan !!! God’s word teaches us that he loves us and wants the best for us. God is ever present and always watchful.  He does not consult your past to justify his blessings on your future. 

It is difficult to look toward our future when we are onstantly allowwing our past to speak.  Maybe mistakes have been made in the past.  Failure is not final, but it can be used as fertilizer to help us grow.  We must take the adversities of this life and allow them to become stepping stones into our future.   No one has ever become great overnight.    

There are many celebrities who have overcome obstacles in their past and pushed forward into their future.  James Earl Jones overcame a stuttering problem as a child, now we have the pleasure of hearing him speak in a deep baritone voice.  Halle Berry, well known actress was diagnosed with diabetes and fell into a diabetic coma 7 years ago.  Michael Jordan, cut from his high school basket ball team, later to become one of the greatest NBA players. These celebrities did not allow their past to speak into their future.  They continued moving towards the future that was ahead of them becoming men and women we all know and love. 

 Zig Zigler said: “Sometimes adversity is what you need to face in order to become successful”.   Successful people do not allow the past to tell them what can or cannot be done.  Today, make a non-negotiable decision you will not allow your past to speak into your future.  The first thing we must do is change our mind.  The bible says be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.  You are what you think!  Some of us have given up on our dreams because of what others have said.  We have to encourage ourselves with the knowledge that God has a good plan for our lives and even if we don’t understand the plan we can trust it. 

We must be prayerfully persistent.  Or as I like to say, we must watch and pray.  Maybe we got off on the wrong road or made an wrong turn, or possibly headed down a one way street,  it’s okay if we have to make a U-Turn or change directions.  The point is it is God who will lead and guide us.  A man’s heart devises’ his ways but the Lord orders his steps.  It’s time to re-position yourself.   Expect something great out of life today.  Don’t get comfortable with compromise.  The only person that can stop you from becoming all you were destined to be is YOU…. God Loves You and so do I….. Pastor Tammy

Pastor, Mentor, Spiritual Counselor, Conference Speaker and Bible Teacher. Founder of Sister to Sister Ministry and The WellSpring of Life. Our top priority is to help individuals establish and develop a personal relationship with Christ. It is our desire to connect with sisters in every city, state, and the nations. It is a privilege to connect with you, through prayer, worship and in sharing the awesome Word of God. We are here to encourage, inspire and challenge you to become all that God has destined for your life. This is a praying ministry. We have a heart of compassion for people from all walks of life and especially for those who are hurting. Our purpose is to maintain the same values as that of OUR FATHER, and be a living example of his love and grace to all mankind. We are not into religion, but we do believe in relationships. It’s not about us but it’s about Jesus.
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