End Stuttering » How To Communicate http://www.end-stuttering.com End Your Stuttering Today Sat, 21 May 2011 02:53:39 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 10 ways to empower your communication – “The Blarney Stone” http://www.end-stuttering.com/10-ways-to-empower-your-communication-the-blarney-stone.php http://www.end-stuttering.com/10-ways-to-empower-your-communication-the-blarney-stone.php#comments Wed, 16 Dec 2009 16:01:48 +0000 admin http://www.end-stuttering.com/10-ways-to-empower-your-communication-the-blarney-stone.php The gift of gab is something that many people lack and long for in todays society.  Some come by it naturally and some.. well.. do not.  The Blarney stone is a historical stone in Ireland (actually part of the Blarney Castle) and it is believed that kissing this stone can grant you the gift of gab. Now, I know that many of you that are lacking this illusive personality trait would love to hop on a plane to Ireland if there were proof of this phenomenon, because I know from personal experience that “learning” the gift of gab is not something easily done.Conversation is an important part of life and there is more to it than most people realize.  Without some form of conversation even the most simple of tasks would become agonizingly difficult.  Although everyone has the ability to communicate enough to survive (whether through vocal means, sign language or otherwise), there is a difference between communicating and having that ‘gift of gab’ or the ability to talk your way into or out of about any situation, as I like to think about it.  Many of us have embarked on seemingly endless journeys to better our communication with others and there are many ways to do so.  You can go though: – Watching talk shows – Listening to radio programs – Joining clubs dedicated to public speaking – having ordinary conversations (certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words)It may sound tedious, I know, but even though it’s your mouth that’s doing the work, your brain works twice as hard to churn out a lot of things you know. So what better way to start learning to be an effective communication is to know the very person closest to you: yourself.The following are ten simple ways to empower your communication.  It’s not much but it’s a start to better your life using conversational techniques1. What you knowEducation is about learning the information, speaking is about practicing what you’ve learned and communicating that knowledge and understanding to another.  We all have limitations but that doesn’t mean we can’t speak up, keep up and share what we know.2. ListeningThere are two sides to every conversation and to listen and grasp what the other participant is saying is a great place to start.  Also learn to listen to you own voice as this can teach some confidence within yourself and give you that boost to say the things you believe in with conviction and assertiveness.3. HumilityEveryone makes mistakes and sometimes these mistakes happen in everyday conversation.  Mistakes such as sluring words, stuttering and mispronounciation.  If you are unsure of how to say a word don’t be afraid to ask if you are pronouncing it correctly and then make a joke out of it.  It will make everyone laugh (with you, not at you) and it’s less embarassing than realizing later that you spent twenty minutes saying something wrong.4. Eye ContactThere are few things more anoying than talking to someone that won’t look you in the eye.  It may be nothing personal but it makes it seems that you lack interest in whatever the conversation may entail.  Direct attention with an eye-catching gaze and keep your focus, especially when talking in a large group.  If you are looking down or past the person or audience you are speaking to then it can be very distracting to the other party and they may lose interest in what you are saying. 5. Kidding aroundLifting tension with humor can do wonders in a conversation and lift boredom when making a speech or presentation.  Through humor you will get the attention of the majority of the crowd and you will seem more approachable and human to them.  I know we’ve all had a teacher, professor or superior that simply reads the text or charts with little or no enthusiasm or wit and it can become boring and dull really quickly.  It is important to use humor when trying to keep a groups attention.6. Be like the rest of themInteraction is all about mingling with other people. You’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as knowing what people make them as they are.7. Me, Myself, and II know all of you are guilty of singing in the shower and it is important to practice this type of technique with speaking as well.  Listen to the sound of your own voice while you speak in front of a mirror, this can help you to correct the stress areas of your speech and you can spruce it up while your at it.. Maybe think of an appropriate joke to throw in.8. With a smileLike eye contact, your facial expression can say more than words.  There is no point to frowning in a meeting or gathering (unless maybe it’s a wake), it will only make others lose interest and make you seem less aproachable.  You can express what you’re saying better with a smile, again… if it’s appropriate.            9. A Role ModelThink of a speaker that you have listened to and related to in your life.  Whether it’s someone you know personally, or a public speaker, or even your favorite talkshow host.  Take a mental note of how this person emphasizes what they say and adapt that with your own flare to really take center stage.10. PreparationAlthough it is good to be able to expand your ideas on the spot, it can also be very helpful in the correct situation to have key points of your speech written down.  Use a few cue cards and not only will this help you to remember everything you need or want to say but it will also give you peace of mind that if you get nervous and lose your footing you can find it again easily.  Don’t write down every word because you will inevitably lose many of the other topics we’ve talked about such as eye contact and smiling, but your mind will be put at ease with a few key phrases put at your fingertipsThat about wraps up my ten all-important suggestions, many of them may seem like common sense but you would be surprised how many are forgotten on a daily basis.  Through these simple steps and the program I’ve linked to below, I have learned to empower myself in both public and private speaking situations.  It’s amazing how you can achieve all you wish just by learning to communicate effectively with others.If you found this article useful then please look into this program developed by master hypnotist Igor Ledochowski.  This program saved my life, you can use the first link to see a touching testimonial or the second to review the program for yourself.  I highly suggest this program to anyone interested in bettering their life through the power of conversation.Testimonial:http://secret2conversationalhypnosis.blogspot.comProduct Websitehttp://secret2conversationalhypnosis.com

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